![]() Some self-punishers threaten to hurt themselves in obvious ways, like "don't do that to me or I'll start drinking again!" or even going so far as to threaten suicide. ![]() But one I really wanted to share with you all is called "The Self-punisher". My father is more of the overt "punisher" type. Tantalizers put us through a series of tests and hold out a promise of something wonderful if we'll just give them their way. Sufferers are talented blamers and guilt-peddlers who often make us figure out what they want, and always conclude that it is up to us to ensure that they get it. ![]() turn the threats inward, emphasizing what they'll do to themselves if they don't get their way. Punishers, who let us know exactly what they want-and the consequences we'll face if we don't give it to them. She mentions that there are four main types of emotional blackmailers: The author talks about horribly insecure people using emotional blackmail to control their victims, and she doesn't just cover abusive romantic relationships- she looks at emotionally abusive parent/child relationships as well. I think I'm not the only one here who would find it relevant. I found a book at a used bookstore called Emotional Blackmail by Susan Forward, and started reading it. Hi everybody- long story short, my therapist thinks my father probably is borderline (well, borderline and narcissistic- he described 'dear old dad' (I call him that as sarcastically as possible) as a "cluster B clusterfuck") so I joined the sub.
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